Codependency

It's hard to fault someone for being compassionate, caring or kind. Too often, other prey or take advantage our kindness and giving spirit. Inadvertently, we give away our power and then find life sometimes hopeless. Learn how to regain your sense of self- respect, security and independence. I utilize CBT therapy to rewire our brain changing our thoughts. Changing our thoughts changes how we feel, thus altering our actions. Using DBT, mindfulness practices and gaining self-confidence help us to

Conflict most frequently surfaces when one partner begins to define their identity outside of the relationship which is a necessary and healthy transition. However, this can feel threatening when codependency is a prominent element in the relationship. I work with couples to develop strategies to increase their sense of safety within the relationship and empower them to further develop their autonomy and sense of self within the relationship.

I have extensive experience treating codependency. A large amount of people find themselves struggling with feelings of responsibility for the needs, wants and feelings, of the people around them. These same people struggle with guilt when they see to their own needs, attempt to set boundaries, or try to put themselves first. I work to help a client see themselves as a priority and let go of carrying the world on their shoulders.

Conflict most frequently surfaces when one partner begins to define their identity outside of the relationship which is a necessary and healthy transition. However, this can feel threatening when codependency is a prominent element in the relationship. I work with couples to develop strategies to increase their sense of safety within the relationship and empower them to further develop their autonomy and sense of self within the relationship.

Relationships are many things: and complex is one of them. It can take active effort for us to notice patterns we may be playing out in our friendships, romantic connections, situationships, and even in our work relationships that may be harming us, or not inline with the person we'd like to be. The good news is that noticing is the first step! Together, we can explore where these patterns come from, and how you imagine they could be different. Small shifts can create big change.

With years of clinical experience and specialized training, I possess professional expertise in effectively treating codependency as a counselor. I prioritize fostering self-awareness, boundary-setting, and healthier relationship dynamics, guiding clients towards autonomy and emotional well-being. Through empathetic listening and collaborative goal-setting, I empower individuals to break free from codependent patterns and cultivate fulfilling lives.

Living with codependency can feel like you’re constantly putting others' needs above your own, leaving you drained and disconnected from your true self. But it’s possible to break free from this cycle. In our sessions, we’ll work together to establish healthy boundaries, build self-worth, and empower you to reclaim your independence. Imagine a life where your happiness isn’t tied to others' approval but comes from a place of inner strength and self-respect. I’m here to guide you on this journey.

I am trained in and utilize Pia Mellody's "Developmental Immaturity" model of codependency treatment, known as Post Induction Therapy. https://www.themeadows.com/workshops/post-induction-therapy-pit/

Jordan helps clients move from painful and draining codependence to a nourishing balance of inter- and independence. Knowledgeable in both 12-step and other recovery networks, Jordan works with her clients to find appropriate support and explore the root cause of codependency.

Codependency is using relationships as a way to validate yourself and or your worth. For example, "If this person is happy, then I am happy. If this person does not feel good, then I do not feel good." Codependency may take the form of people pleasing, difficulty with boundary setting, perfectionism, anxiety, and shame, as it can often stem from us not having the space to learn our needs and the safety to express them fully. I will help you begin prioritizing YOU without guilt or doubt.

Hiding Parts of Who You Are Over-Commitment to Basically Anything Not Feeling Good Enough or Capable Enough People-Pleasing Behaviors Comparing Anything/Everything & “Falling Short” Perfectionist Expectations Inflexible Thinking (Either/Or Thinking) Struggling to Identify How You Feel “Taking On” the Emotional Experiences of Others as Your Own

Codependency is not an official mental illness, but it is a term that many people identify with. I help clients based on the definition created by the author and codependency expert Pia Mellody. She defines it as having difficulty with: - experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem - setting functional boundaries - owning our own reality - acknowledging and meeting our own needs and wants and being interdependent with others - experiencing and expressing our reality moderately

It's hard to fault someone for being compassionate, caring or kind. Too often, other prey or take advantage our kindness and giving spirit. Inadvertently, we give away our power and then find life sometimes hopeless. Learn how to regain your sense of self- respect, security and independence. I utilize CBT therapy to rewire our brain changing our thoughts. Changing our thoughts changes how we think and feel best altering our actions.

I have enjoyed being able to work with people on their issues of codependency towards healthy relationships. I will be an advocate for your self-discovery and independent growth, so that you can find yourself with greater insight into your patterns, rather than wait for someone else to tell you what is "wrong with you" and then "fix you." We will discuss independence of identity, worth, self-respect, and boundaries.

Codependency may show up as people pleasing and denying one's own needs. I like the famous analogy of being on an airplane: to be in a relationship, we must tend to ourselves (put on our own gas masks before helping others). Life is about relationships and there is none more important than the relationship we have with ourselves. To treat codependency, I draw on the teachings of theorists such as John Bradshaw, Pia Mellody, and Melody Beattie.

I understand how folks struggling with codependency deeply care for others and often leave their own needs overlooked. Together, we’ll work on setting healthy boundaries, building self-worth, and learning how to prioritize your emotional well-being without guilt. I’m here to support you in finding balance, reclaiming your independence, and nurturing the relationships that truly serve you. You deserve to feel empowered and whole, not responsible for everyone else’s happiness.

I offer dedicated support to individuals navigating the complexities of codependent relationships. My approach focuses on creating a safe and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their patterns of behavior, understand the underlying dynamics of codependency, and develop healthier boundaries and self-care practices.