Sexual Problems

I take you through the biochemistry of sex and explore with you the intersection between, sexuality, relationships, and addiction in your life. Its not for me to tell you how it is, its for me to give you the information and you can help me understand how what you are learning has manifested in your own life. Sexual problems can be resolved. If your sexual interests are getting in the way of your relationships, I am the guy you should call!

My background as a sexuality educator as well as being sex therapist means that I can give high quality information from an ethical, pleasure positive and clinically sound place. I teach classes on sexual skills and pleasure and keep up to date on classes, retreats and other info to help my clients create a healthy and robust sex life.

I work with individuals and couples looking to work on challenges related to sex & sexuality.

Sex isn’t necessarily about intercourse, but it can be. You might be experiencing pain during sex or trouble ejaculating or keeping an erection. Shame or anxiety might be limiting your ability to enjoy sex. Or you might feel like sex has taken control of your life. When working with folks overcoming sexual challenges, I always aim to chase after pleasure, play and connection. Together we can help you reconnect to yourself and reclaim your sexual freedom.

Too often, people are taught that sex is not pleasurable, that they should fear it because of unwanted pregnancies or sexually transmitted infections (STI). This messaging, along with your body’s natural physical response, play incremental roles in the overall personal ideology of your sexual functioning. Learn to break free of the fear-induced sexual scripts and take pleasure in yourself or your partner.

Sexual shame, sexual pain, sexual desire are often culprits to disturbances in our sex lives. We work together to acknowledge the source of the mixed messages we received as children while being compassionate with ourselves. Together, using sex therapy strategies we will challenge, educate, and develop healthy pleasure practices.

Sexual problems can be particularly frustrating and difficult to talk about. The vast majority of humans do it, the vast majority of those have had questions or some issue with sex at least once. But for some reason we aren't allowed to talk about it? Why be in pain and not allowed to tell anyone? Why distance yourself from your partners for fear they will judge you? Why let relationships wither because nobody is getting what they really want? Lets talk about it and get you where you want to be.

Pleasure is for everyone. First, reflecting on past influences or messaging will help you gain perspective on how you view sex and what ideas or biases you hold about sex and sexuality. Then, decide if those ideas still pertain to you today or if they are beliefs that you have left unquestioned. Question them and continue to question them. Last, make your own choices about how you want to exist as a sexual being in the world.

Sex therapy is unique for each individual based on your needs. A person does not need to have "sexual problems" to be in sex therapy. Some common reasons to seek out a sex therapist include: -Exploring sexual and/or gender identity -Erotic mismatch/discrepancy in desire levels or desires of partners -Increasing sexual pleasure and satisfaction -Destigmatizing sex and reducing sexual shame

It's easy to understand why anyone would have sexual problems. No one teaches us how to be healthy sexual beings. We're taught all kinds of stuff that's wrong and we have to make up a lot of what we do by trial and error. It's a silly way to learn something so vital to our lives. I'm sure that whatever you struggle with is common. It won't surprise me. Come see me to find out what no one would teach you in a safe caring way.

I have experience working with sexual problems including avoidance and compulsions. I also enjoy supporting communities that can experience stigma and oppression around sexuality, including those in open relationship, involved in kink and sex work and those identifying as Transgender and GNC.

I create a compassionate and non-judgmental space for clients to address their concerns. I employ evidence-based techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychosexual therapy to help individuals and couples overcome issues such as erectile dysfunction, low libido, and sexual pain. Together, we explore underlying factors like anxiety, past trauma, and relationship dynamics, fostering open communication to enhance intimacy and improve sexual functioning.

I have an extensive training in treating male and female sexual dysfunctions such as erectile dysfunction, premature and delayed ejaculation, performance anxiety, pelvic pain concerns like vaginismus and endometriosis. I'm passionate about enhancing your sexual communication and confidence, overcoming sexual shame and trauma, and helping you to identify the barriers preventing you to strengthen your sexual, physical and emotional intimacy.

In 2009, I started my journey to become a therapist because of my desire to address the shame and stigma surrounding sexuality in American culture. My goal is to provide folx with accurate and objective information and journey with them as they use this information to examine the unhelpful or harmful cultural messaging received around sexuality and create their own understanding of what a thriving sex life means for them.

“Sex is… perfectly natural. It’s something that’s pleasurable. It’s enjoyable and it enhances a relationship. So why don’t we learn as much as we can about it and become comfortable with ourselves as sexual human beings because we are all sexual?” ― Sue Johanson

I create a compassionate and non-judgmental space for clients to address their concerns. I employ evidence-based techniques like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and psychosexual therapy to help individuals and couples overcome issues such as erectile dysfunction, low libido, and sexual pain. Together, we explore underlying factors like anxiety, past trauma, and relationship dynamics, fostering open communication to enhance intimacy and improve sexual functioning.

I am currently being trained as a sex therapist, and have gained experienced kink friendly training. In my 6 years I have gained tools to assist survivors of sexual assault reclaim their power. Working together to help each individual find their voice so that they can set healthy boundaries and communicate them to others. I have also had the pleasure of working with polyamorous partners, individuals in consensual non monogamy and other lifestyles choices.