Attachment

Many of us experience difficulty in relationship with others, whether it is avoidance of closeness, over dependence on a partner, anxiety or anger around authority figures, or frequent conflict. Exploring your attachment style and how it was formed can allow you to break old patterns and experiment with more satisfying behaviors in relationships.

I'm immensely passionate about everything attachment - especially helping folks heal attachment wounds. Since we’re wired to need connection to survive, it makes sense that our relationships can "make or break us." Unfortunately, many of us carry wounds from disrupted / harmful attachments and as a result make choices that go against our own best interest repeatedly. When we understand attachment and how it has impacted us, we’re able to know ourselves deeper and truly heal.

Healthy Attachment to self, family, community, and the world can all be in need of support and counseling. I am able to support you in your work to build healthy attachment rooted in your unique wholeness

Attachment can affect how we show up in our relationships and how relationships effect our wellbeing. We will redefine some shattered roles so that you can reimagine your relationships as whole.

Some people say that unresolved attachment issues are at the root of most of our relational issues - and I would have to agree. Underneath fights with your partner is a desire to feel safe and secure in your relationship. Fights happen because we don't feel safe and connected. I use proven interventions based on the science of attachment theory to help clients identify and express their important feelings and needs, leading to less conflict and greater connection with others.

Attachment-Based Therapy is a wonderful tool that can help individuals create secure and healthier relationships with people they care about. By focusing on attachment issues, this form of therapy can provide the guidance and understanding needed to create lasting bonds with significant people in our life. Whether you are looking to heal from trauma or strengthen relationships, Attachment-Based Therapy is an invaluable resource for restoring trust and creating meaningful connections.

Our early experiences with attachment and bonding shape the way we relate to others throughout our lives. If you're struggling with attachment issues, such as fear of abandonment, difficulty trusting others, or feeling disconnected from yourself or others, my approach could be well suited to working on these issues. I offer therapy that focuses on understanding and healing attachment wounds, which is correlated with healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Do you have difficulty being vulnerable in your relationships? Do you find yourself unable to reach the level of closeness or emotional depth you desire? I would love to help. I deeply enjoy helping people connect with others in their lives in ways they never thought possible. This usually entails giving yourself a chance to explore what has been getting in the way, which often means taking a compassionate look at the first relationships you developed in your life.

For most people, repetitive, problematic patterns in relationships usually stem from attachment adaptations that were learned in childhood. Because we live with these patterns (sometimes others', sometimes our own) for so long, we often can't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. If you would like to gain more insight into why the same problems keep happening in your relationships, and learn how to change these patterns, please reach out.

Attachment is one of those pieces that we can carry for a long time, and struggle to understand. I use EMDR, IFS, and brainspotting to help you lean in and gain an in-depth understanding of yourself so that you can learn how you adapt and function. In this process, you also learn to see yourself as human and love the human that is inside.

Attachment theory offers a research-based framework to understand how we experience and respond to closeness, distance, emotional connection, emotional disconnection, and conflict in our relationships. By examining relationships through both trauma-informed and attachment-informed lenses, we can gain deeper insights into our emotional reactions and behaviors. In therapy, we can explore new ways to manage relational triggers, cope with intense emotions, and communicate more effectively.

I work with individuals in therapy to identify the problematic thoughts, behaviors, and patterns that stem from our oldest and deepest attachment wounds. I help my individual clients develop self-compassion, self-acceptance, and self-worth by deconstructing and rebuilding their sense of self. I specialize in trauma informed approaches to working with anxiety and depression in the LGBTQ+ community and have extensive experience working with the effects of religious trauma and discrimination.

If you struggle to feel calm, connected, and confident in your close relationships, this may be due to your attachment style. Attachment is a term to describe how we connect to ourselves, others, and environments. You can think of attachment as a spectrum between the competing needs of freedom and security. In our work together, we will destigmatize your attachment style and get curious about providing new experiences to support your missing needs.

Attachment based therapy helps identify how past relationships have shaped the way you feel about yourself and how you behave in relationships. If you are noticing patterns in your relationships, your attachment style may be playing a role. In attachment based therapy you will learn about your attachment style, behaviors and relationship styles that are typically associated with your attachment style, and how to make changes so you aren't stuck with you past relationship baggage!

Attachment is how we as individuals relate to ourselves and how we relate to others. We learn this from a very young age: often the stage is set before we're born, as context and culture informs our family environment which informs how we are born and raised. Attachment as a framework can inform all the other things we deal with on a daily basis, and our clinicians approach issues from this perspective, working to help you elevate how you show up for yourself, and with others.

I have specialty training in how trauma suffered during childhood impacts ongoing attachment styles. This is my primary area of expertise.

I have taught college level courses covering the subject of attachment theory. Furthermore, I co-led a year long attachment based group for adults involved with Department of Child Services in the state of Indiana, where the goal was to repair the attachment system of the parent in question, and teach them how to cultivate healthy attachment with children. I also ran a group that targets the symptoms of insecure attachment, such as emotional regulation skills, boundary setting, and assertiveness