Discernment Counseling

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

If you're struggling with your marriage and uncertain about the future, I understand how difficult that can be. You haven’t agreed to end your relationship, but you haven’t decided to stay together either. When one or both partners is seriously considering separation or divorce, discernment counseling can help. Discernment counseling helps couples struggling with the decision to stay together or separate find clarity and confidence in whatever decision they make.

I'm a certified Discernment Counselor who helps couples unsure about their relationship's future. Through our sessions, we'll explore the issues that have brought you to this point, and I'll help you to understand the dynamics of your relationship and to make an informed decision about the best path forward. I aim to help you and your partner find clarity, peace of mind, and the confidence to make the right decision for both of you.

Trained and working towards certification with Dr. Bill Dougherty in helping couples decide to work on their relationship.

Discernment counseling is a short-term model designed to assist couples on the brink. The goal of this intervention is to develope clarity about the marriage, secure confidence in moving forward, and understanding of the role each partner has contributed to the struggle. These goals are obtained by focusing on three specific pathways: path 1. Remaining in the marriage without change, path 2. Separation or divorce, path 3. Commitment to a course of 6 months of couples therapy.

If you or your partner are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. I will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health or move toward divorce. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future. The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable.

When a couple presents to therapy with two different goals, one being to stay in the relationship, and the other being unsure, I would recommend discernment counseling. Discernment counseling allows for the couple to determine what they want for the future of their relationship. This can be deciding on a definite divorce, possible separation, or deciding on going to couple's therapy to work on any relational issues. The choice is up to the client, with the therapist being a coach.

As a therapist who practices discernment counseling, my focus is on helping couples who are uncertain about the future of their relationship gain clarity and make informed decisions. Rather than assuming that the goal of therapy is to save the relationship, I acknowledge that not all relationships are meant to be saved. Instead, I work with clients to explore the underlying reasons for their uncertainty and the factors that may be contributing to the challenges they are facing.

Discernment Counseling isn't therapy. The discernment process is meant to provide you with clarity and confidence about a direction for your relationship based on a deeper understanding of what has happened in your relationship as well exploring the possibilities for the future. Discernment counseling is brief- just 1-5 sessions; and goal-directed, meaning there's no time to waste. If you're stuck and uncertain of the future. Discernment counseling can help.

Discernment counseling is about aiding clients in understanding their life's direction. I guide them away from people-pleasing towards a life aligned with their true purpose, using my faith-based insights for deeper discernment and decision-making. My role is to support clients in navigating choices with confidence, leaning on spiritual principles to enhance their journey.

This determines if you'd like to remain in a relationship. Separation and divorce are off the table for six months after which the couple decides whether to follow through with separation, divorce or remaining together.

If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path … you are in a tough spot, and Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

Discernment Counseling is designed for the couple who is experiencing divorce or breakup ambivalence. The goal of Discernment Counseling is to create greater clarity, confidence, and understanding about how to proceed in making a decision about the future of the relationship.

Feeling uncertain about your relationship? As a therapist specializing in discernment counseling, I offer a spiritual approach to help individuals explore their feelings and values. This unique method allows you to reflect deeply on your relationship—whether it’s about deepening your commitment, taking a step back, or considering separation—while connecting to your inner wisdom. Together, we’ll navigate your emotions and clarify your path forward with intention and compassion.